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My memory is pretty much the same as yours. My grandma would make the cafecito, and some of it made its way into my café con leche in the mornings.

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One thing I didn't share was that, for some reason, I always associated coffee with nighttime? I feel like I remember my grandmother making coffee after dinner. I'm positive she made it at any time of the day, but most of my memories revolve around a post-dinner coffee. Thank you for sharing!!!

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That's interesting. When I was a teenager my uncle would make it a nighttime and then he would go outside in the backyard for a smoke. This was in Miami. I would join him (not in smoking, but for conversation) and we would spend a couple of hours talking about everything, but mainly Cuba.

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I am from Viet Nam (we produced second highest quantity of coffee in the world) and my memory with coffee was with with my dad at local cafes, watching him leisurely sip his black coffee drip while perusing a newspaper

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Yes! I think so many people have memories of coffee that involve their parents! On a similar note, I did an episode with Sahra Nguyen who owns a coffee roaster specifically dedicated to sourcing Vietnamese coffee in the U.S.! She's really cool and her coffees are incredible!

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Until three and a half years ago, when I met the man who is now my boyfriend, I had never had a single cup of coffee in my life. I never had a concrete philosophy against coffee; if anything, I wonder if it was because I *didn't* grow up in a family with a coffee culture, much less any type of rituals around food. (A whole other story.)

On one of our dates, he asked if I wanted to try a decaf cappuccino, and I said yes. My boyfriend loves food the way that I do but had never had a person to celebrate with, and I was starting to realize I needed to say yes to more things in my life, as cheesy as that sounds. The cappuccino itself was, in hindsight, not that great! But the experience was, as was the boyfriend. We have Sunday mornings together, coffee and pastries, and it's home.

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this is so beautiful :) thank you for sharing!

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I love this!!! Thank you so much for sharing such a lovely story!

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In South India, we pronounce it 'Kaapi'. Filter Kaapi. Usually brewed from the coffee seed powder that comes from the coffee plantations in the hills.

There is an interesting legend regarding the genesis of coffee production in India. In 19th Century, Baba Budan ,a Muslim saint brought seven coffee seeds to Mysore, in India by hiding it in his beard (while returning from Hajj. The export of coffee seeds was strictly not permitted by the Arabs during that time. Soon coffee plantations developed in South India especially Karnataka, Kerala & Tamil Nadu.

For me, the best time to relish the hot cup of coffee is winter, preferably from the warmth of a woolen blanket, with a book close by.

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I love this story! I know very little about coffee's history in India, so thank you for this context. What is coffee seed powder? Is this the beans crushed into a fine powder? I've never heard of this and I'm excited to learn!

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Dried coffee seeds crushed into fine powder.

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I want to say I was 4 or 5 years old as the earliest memory of watching my father make coffee. He used a moka like pot, put in a couple of scoops of cafe du monde (it's like a SE Asian refugee family thing I feel due to french colonization), and once that is done pour in condense milk. Sometimes I would see him dunk a piece of vietnamese baguette and other times ritz crackers. I remember trying it myself with his mug once and liked that taste which forever holds one of my fondest memory about my dad. Unfortunately, I never liked condense milk ever since I've watched him pour that sticky gooeyness into his mug haha. Although we're Cambodian, he does appreciate Vietnamese style coffee!

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We never brewed coffee at home as a kid but I remember my parents getting coffee from Costa. I remember my mom asking for different patterns like a leaf or heart.

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I have two, but don't remember which one was first, so here they are:

My mom didn't drink coffee in her family but my dad did, so when they got married she tried to make coffee for him. I remember seeing the cloth coffee filter on the kitchen counter and then not seeing it anymore. I guess at some point my father said he didn't like the coffee and my mom grew up and decided she didn't have to make it any more!

When I was in grade school, I used to have breakfast looking at a clock with an eskimo walking to mark the seconds and a glass of milk with instant coffee (what I think is pretty common in Latin America). But I kind of hated the milk and I'm glad my mom stopped giving it to me at some point!

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Thank you so much for sharing, Luiz! My partner makes coffee for me every morning, and I think there's something so loving and caring about making coffee for someone else.

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As I write the scent of coffee wafts from my Grandmother's kitchen. She was a fourth generation Northern Californian born Ten Mile River Mendocino County (now a state park) and settled in San Francisco. Adults were very uptight about allowing children coffee but if we persisted we got some coffee in our milk.

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I feel like coffee is almost always a bridge between childhood and adulthood. So many people share stories about seeing their parents and elders drink coffee and wishing to be part of the conversation. It's almost like coffee is the window between both worlds.

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As a child I a.ways felt my elders made a huge error by leaving me out of the conversation. If I’ve done anything I’ve made an effort to encourage my own kids to participate in every conversation.

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7th grade, one night at the downtown outdoor ice skating rink, i was somewhat peer-pressured into spending a precious $2.50 on my very first cappuccino, the kind from those dingy old push-button machines that you find at dated rest stops. i loved the syrupy sweet hot drink. we stood outside watching the other skaters in the dusk, sipping our cappuccinos, and it's still very vivid - out with friends, no parents! in the city! at night! with a COFFEE! thank you for the prompt :)

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I love this story! I love coffee as a stand-in for rebellion and being a teenager and exploring limits. It's wild how symbolic coffee has become for so many people.

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My first memory with coffee is tied unfortunately to my ED (so *tw*). My mom and dad didn't drink coffee growing up, so I didn't have it as a regular thing until high school. I'd buy the powdered cappuccino stuff that barely cuts it as coffee, and it was something of a double edged sword: a treat and a way to stave off hunger. I'm not so sure that it worked, but I wound up falling in love with coffee and worked as a barista for years after.

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Thank you for sharing such a vulnerable story. It's interesting how some experiences don't have a simple good/bad designation. I really appreciate you sharing this with us.

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Congratulations on the fellowship, Ashley! 🎉

My first memory of coffee is the old aluminum perk pot my parents and grandparents used and even though I was too young go to drink it, I loved the aroma ☕️ 🖤

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Thank you Jolene! You're the best!

I hear so many people share that what drew them in was the aroma! I have to imagine, especially as children, the mystery of smelling something so yummy but not being able or allowed to drink it adds another layer of excitement.

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Yes! Something so good, but only the grown-ups could have it!

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I'd been drinking starbucks as a social thing for years, but when I was in Istanbul during college, I tried Turkish coffee and it completely changed the way I thought about coffee. It inspired me to work as a barista after college, which I still consider to be one of my favorite jobs!

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I love that!!! One thing that's so wonderful about coffee is how universal it is and how it helps us connect to people everywhere we move.

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Mine was with my grandmother too! She would use a coffee sock to brew her coffee and would heat her milk in a small pot with sugar. And every once in a while after school she would serve me some in one of her fancy mugs on a saucer with buttered crackers or bread. I miss those moments with her so much!

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I love this story soooo much!!!!

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Maybe not my very first, but most salient. I was working in Guatemala in the Peace Corps when my parents and younger brother came to visit. We were in Antigua and went to a nice breakfast place. We ordered some coffees - I ordered an espresso. When the coffees came out, mine was in a tiny cup. The family laughed and asked if I knew that's what I was getting. I said, 'yes, of course, yes I did know.' Then I took my little cup, jutted out my pinky and had a sip trying to hide the fact that I had absolutely no clue what an espresso was. And I made that espresso last throughout the entire breakfast.

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I love this! And what a great place to have such a beautiful memory! I'm sure the espresso was delicious.

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I have no clue:)

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When I was maybe 5 years old in Lima, Peru, Abuelita made breakfast, cafe con leche with pan con chicharron—fried pork and sweet potato sandwich. It was the perfect combination, sweet sips in between rich, savory bites. To this day, cafe con leche is my drink, always a dark roast.

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When I'm in Miami, I always make it a point to order a cafe con leche at a ventanita and get pan Cubano and dip the bread into my coffee. This is something I never do at home or during my usual routines, but it's such a nostalgic memory and feels very appropriate when I go back to where I grew up.

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Growing up with my Dad in a coffee free household in the UK, I never experienced coffee until I visited my mom in New Jersey. Even then it wasn't something that was part of my life until I spent some time between school and college living with her in the US.

The daily ritual of putting the coffee of the week from her subscription service, adding half and half and sugar is one of those memories of her that I'll always hold dear to my heart.

It's also the time that I first discovered the joy of whiling away hours in a Barnes and Noble, or one of the plethora of Central Perkesque coffee houses that 90's college towns seemed to be full of.

Makes me smile to think of it.

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I feel like every teenage memory I have is sulking around the Barnes & Noble cafe while looking at books.

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