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Jill Killen's avatar

I just had this conversation yesterday. Someone asked if I would open another location and I said I had tried and it wasn’t the end all be all answer I thought it would be. It was expensive and I didn’t feel I could spread myself out that way. There’s this push to expand because of the reasons you outlined, and I think it’s also intrinsic in capitalism: always pushing for more profits, more money, more access to capital. I’m not good at capitalism and frankly, I hate it, I just try to play the only game we have here. I wish I had had this self-actualization prior to open a second store. Once again you are wise beyond your years Ashley.

I noticed you were missing in December and I thought, good for her!

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Eden's avatar

Welcome back! I definitely did miss you in my inbox but I fully understand the feeling of life just being too full and needing to dial back on some aspects. I hope you had a great month focusing on Grad School stuff!

I think about the notion of "enough" all the time. I see lots of people in my life constantly wanting more. My partner always wants more guitar pedals (how many does one need?), my mom buys new furniture for her home what feels like every couple months, my brother has an unfathomable sneaker wall. With material stuff I especially think about the capitalism and consumerism aspects and how that's terrible for the planet, but I also personally get very overwhelmed if there are too many "things" around me.

The idea of wanting more of that sort of intangible "growth" is something I've been slowly letting go of more and more each year. It especially hit me when there was a possible opportunity for my boss to receive a promotion and me to take her role. I looked at her responsibilities and looked at mine and realized that I really liked doing what I was doing. If growth meant leaving the stuff I was doing behind, then I didn't want that. That was what really pushed me to remove myself from the "climb the corporate ladder" mentality and consider that I could be happier at a "lower" level and making enough money to live decently.

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